Much like in the real world, first impressions count for everything; in online dating, women have even way of contacting someone: the wink, poke, nudge, smile, flirt function.
That’s why it’s essential during the getting-to-know-you process to be open and friendly while still maintaining a sense of mystery.
Share enough information about yourself to excite, entice, and/or intrigue your potential match, while still leaving him or her wanting more. Here’s a good rule of thumb to follow: Keep your profile answers short, succinct, and sassy.
Do: Play the Game Like it or not, dating is a game.
In order to be successful, you’ve got to play to win. Your job is to recover quickly, get back out there, and always play to win.
That means accepting that part of the courtship process is a chase. If that person is not interested, he or she either won’t respond at all or will send you a polite Thanks, but no thanks. Don’t: Divulge too Much too Soon Nobody wants to read a long-winded thesis on you and your life, either in your online profile or via those initial email exchanges.
Just as your potential match will want to chase you, you can also chase him or her. When you find someone whose profile catches your eye, send a flirty wink, an enticing icebreaker, or a friendly email. Quite honestly, it’s overwhelming and a total turnoff.
In theory, it is supposed to be a cute and flirty way to tell someone that you’re interested in them, get them to check out your profile and maybe send you a message. They expend time and energy waiting checking her activity dates, wondering if she got that message, if he should send a second one… Approaching women out in the world is like spear-fishing – one at a time.
In reality, it’s seen as a passive-aggressive way of trying to bait someone else into making the first move. At worst, you’ve just sent the wrong message A proper first contact message is convoluted; you want to set certain expectations and convey an attractive image of yourself. It sounds a little cold-blooded and impersonal, but you’re going to want to have a stock first message. Treat approaching women on online dating sites should be like dynamite fishing; you want to toss your messages out there and see what floats to the surface.
When replying to a match via email, use two-to-three-sentence responses.
If in doubt, it helps to draft an email, walk away and return an hour later to review it, edit it and, when satisfied, hit send.
If you want to attract a quality partner, you need to show why others should choose what you are offering over everybody else.