I’m sure it’s no surprise to hear that I get asked this question all the time from well-meaning young adults, looking to set up some boundaries in their relationships.But why is it that when we answer this question, we tend to fixate on the physical?
Being separated by distance will test many aspects of your relationship, particularly commitment, trust, communication and time management.
These are all important things to think about before you enter a LDR (long-distance relationship). Your first step is to carefully consider how committed you are to the other person.
Q: “My girlfriend and I are Christians but we are sexually active.
We know we are in the wrong and that God’s teaching tells us to be pure and wait till we are married.
Looking back on those experiences, I can see what assisted in the success of our time apart, as well as what had the potential to harm the bond we had worked hard to form.
Growing in a relationship when you’re together takes effort — doing it apart is work!
A sort of “emotional sex” that can be just as harmful and heartbreaking, when it moves too deep, too fast. She decided not to “date around” but instead wanted to wait until she felt that dating would definitely lead to marriage.
As wise as that decision may have been at the time- when she finally did start dating Brian in her late twenties- she went too deep, too fast.
However, every time we try to stay pure we end up slipping up.
What makes matters worse is that I am currently four hours away at school and every time we see each after being apart a week or two (even when we have had full intentions of not being sexual) we end up falling into our old habits.
When my now-husband and I were in the beginning stages of dating, we made great decisions and unfortunate mistakes that have helped us to be where we are now.