Similarly, among 26,434 men ages 30 to 49, 42% wouldn’t even consider a woman if she was older than him.
Recently, Erika — who is also a dating expert for JDate, the author of “Love at First Site” and a syndicated columnist on dating — wrote an article about the ageism she sees among her online dating clients.
What she wrote piqued our interest, so we checked in with her by phone to learn more.
But evolving gender roles in modern society have led to more equality between the sexes, challenging this antiquated notion for men.
Sam Owen, Elites Singles Partner psychologist, believes "young men nowadays probably also recognize that older women are adept at diligently juggling so many responsibilities (career, children, housekeeping, fitness, finances, socializing), which makes them intriguing and attractive and a more secure option."The dating website analyzed the upper and lower age search limits for more than 450,000 of its members to reveal the age of a man and a woman’s perfect partner.
They think someone who’s 60 must not be active, or people who are 70 must not be working — even if they themselves are. For whatever reason, social norms say that the man should be older — but why?
It’s frustrating for women when men won’t include a woman up to their own age in their search; a man is 65 and only lists women age 45 to 55. I’m working with a client who is 36 and thinks a 33-year-old is too old for him. It’s a huge double standard, but women are generally more accepting of older bodies in a partner than men are.According to a survey by dating website Elite Singles, 20-something men actually have a preference for older women three to six years older than themselves.The biological theory has always been men prefer younger women because they are likely to bear more children, while women prefer older men because they offer resources and stability.Namely, that if you look at a typical 40 year old man’s search preferences, it will generally read 27-35.And if you look at a typical 40 year old woman’s search preferences, it’ll generally read 35-45.Similar to their younger male counterparts, younger women have reflected this interest in older men.