You’re often in midlife, crisis or not — a time when you may be questioning what you’ve done, what you haven’t done, and where you want to be. They say they simply wish they were no longer married. They wonder if this is how they are doomed to live the rest of their lives (and most of them have another 40 years ahead of them).
Like many 50-somethings, you may be an empty-nester or an about-to-be-empty-nester.
You’re likely either 20-something years into a marriage or any number of years divorced. They say they aren’t in love with their husbands (or any other man, because they aren’t having affairs).
Beth, 44, is a witty, educated single woman who lives in northwest Charlotte and works in finance.
In April 2010, she had a second date with a man she met online.
Jerry was a wealthy, highly successful, intelligent, divorced chap who worked in the film industry.
He owned four homes around the world and, on paper at least, ticked every box going. He was scruffy with a scratchy-looking grey beard that made him look horribly unkempt.
After all, if he looked so unappealing in his clothes, what on earth would he look like naked?
Afterwards, many hundreds of people from around the world, men and women, contacted me to say they’d enjoyed the book and admired me for being so honest about what is still a fairly taboo subject: relationships between older women and younger men.
I don’t have my wallet.” Then, he continued to badmouth his ex-wife.
Beth suggested he find neutral ground with the ex since they share kids. She’s a Charlotte-based certified matchmaker (Did you know there was such a thing? Spangler helps clients define what they’re looking for and make the most of the time they devote to online dating.
Shuffling self-consciously in his seat beside me at the cinema, I sensed that my date was about to make his move.