First of all, I would like to thank Ryan for the opportunity to contribute to his site.
Plus, I’m trying to figure out whether a writing MFA would be a good time investment for me, and talking to my boyfriend and his fellow students is giving me a lot of insight into how the program works. Obviously, grad students are using a lot of energy on their program instead of on their relationships. On the bright side, the busy-ness issues mean that my time-management skills are really getting polished.
Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.
From this, I published many of their ideas on my newsletters, which are accessible on my website ( as well as my book (“The Smart Way to Your Ph. I continue to receive questions from students around the world, and I address them through my blogs.
With that said (stemming from graduate student issues), Ryan has recently approached me about a very important topic: How can significant others (or spouses) support each other if one or both of them are graduate students?
Sadie*, 26, had asked her boyfriend Mark to print out one of her grad school assignments at his office.
He did, then accidentally forgot to bring the stack home. on your own, but tackling law school, med school or other higher degrees while managing a relationship with another person invites a unique set of challenges: uneven bank accounts, relocating, stunted social lives, deferred plans of marriage.My boyfriend’s MFA is in writing, obviously something that I’m interested in as well, and he sometimes jokes that by being with him I’m getting a free MFA.I get to go with him when poets and novelists come to his school to read their work, I get to read the literature on his syllabus when he’s working on something else, and I get to have great conversations with him about writing.After I finished my Ph D I realized that in order to get my degree I had to overcome many of the same barriers as other graduate students.Going further, this brought up a key question: Why wasn’t there a book that summarized all the tricks and tips of navigating graduate school?Many grad students such as myself are fraught with insecurities about their abilities, and a special someone has to deal with this.