Some believe that, once married, a person is never free to marry again unless their spouse dies – and no exceptions.Others believe God doesn’t condemn us to be single forever if we, or our former spouse, made mistakes or behaved badly.
It’s a theological tangle I’m not qualified to unpick – we each have to exercise our own judgement.Theology aside, I admit that when I began my dating journey, I was somewhat prejudiced against divorcés.When you hear the word divorce, even if you aren't divorced yourself, I would bet that almost instantly you conjure up images of pain and tears, of yelling and courtrooms, of kids with backpacks, of lawyers and paperwork, of anger and sadness. Statistics tell us that divorce is the second highest stressor after the death of a spouse. The only difference, which can make it more unnerving to walk through, is that the spouse is still alive and well in the world, and you must continue at times to interact with him. But a divorce is the death of a marriage and the death of your dream for it. Feeling as if something or someone has died takes most divorcees by surprise, especially if their marriages were difficult.
But despite those differences, there are some similarities across the board.I knew it was unfair: many people’s marriages end against their will, and through no fault of their own.But I couldn’t shake the feeling that they’d already proved they had no staying power. But what does starting over after divorce look like? You cannot see the forest for the trees; you cannot see around the bend. In the aftermath of a divorce, every man and woman needs to decide how he or she will start over.Christian Dating after Divorce is something that should not be rushed.