In many ways they can seem more mature, attractive and have their lives more together than their shambolic single counterparts. Too many nights of looking stunning in your new outfit only to be admired by the cat as you’re let down yet again. In the unlikely event of being seen out anywhere by anyone he knows, you will be introduced as his niece/ cousin/ babysitter. If he has kids it’s highly unlikely he wants more, even though your imagination is working overtime dreaming of your own little family together. You can never just phone him when you’re having a bad day. And sadly, as some grow bored of what they have at home, there’s apparently no shortage of them looking to cheat. As well as the big, glaring explanations for avoiding these – feeling bad about yourself and playing a part in ruining a relationship and possibly a family – there’s other things that will leave you with a bad taste in your mouth. If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these 10 truths before you leap: 1. A man who is in a very unhappy or unsatisfying marriage can feel swept away by how wonderful you make him feel.
You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.
This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. As appreciative as he sounds, many women who are involved with married men come to resent his having the best of both worlds, when she has the least. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? At some level, he's going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Despite his reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife in an above-board and respectful way -- and not beginning a legitimate relationship with you -- are actions that speak louder than words. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?
Unless you are well socialized, you can expect to be very lonely during these times. You will be unable to share details of your relationship with friends and family as you would in a normal relationship. You will never get to know his parents, his siblings, his children or his circle of friends unless he gets a divorce in the future, which again, is not where you are now.
That part of his life will be compartmentalized away from you, where it is entirely possible that he is fully integrated into your life, creating a major imbalance., may be a male who has absolutely no intention of divorcing his wife.
He may also be more adventurous than your spouse or other men you have dated.
Whatever the situation is, you are likely to have some great sex with a married man, even if most of the excitement comes from the possibility of being caught. Whatever the reason it’s unlikely that there will be a happy ever after as you’ll never ever be able to trust him. Recently, I read an article by Farrah Gray entitled "Why The Other Woman Slept With Your Man." Farrah's article includes six reasons why she slept with your man: The list was shared over almost 20,000 times, I'm assuming by people who have been betrayed in their relationships and want proof of the other woman's lack of worth and to demonize her.A long-term relationship may feel boring and stale in comparison.Even if you or your married lover has no plans of getting a divorce, the excitement of a new relationship may prove too hard to resist.The existence of your relationship with a married man tells you how little he respects his wife by lying to her instead of being a man and telling her he wants out. Like the Groucho Marx joke, "He may not want to be of a relationship that would have him as a partner." 7. Like it or not, you are a willing participant in a man violating his vows and betraying the trust of his wife -- not to mention grossly disappointing his children and making it difficult for them to see him as a role model. If he is caught by his wife or conscience, don't be surprised if he tries to blame you and get you to take the fall. Because it's convenient and comfortable, a relationship with a married man can go on for a long time -- and before you know it, eat up the precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship with a chance of flourishing.